My child's father, absent for 11 years, now wants to see son. Son doesn't want visit. Should I force it?

Okay im a 14 year old girl and my dad never has been in my life when i was 9 years old my dad wanted to be in my life and i didnt want to and my mom forced it and i resented alot.I really think it is best if you dont force it becuase ive been in his shoes and is going through it now i really dont want my dad coming in my life becuase Well when u dont have one of your parents then they just show up out of no where you feel like He never wanted you and u have alot running through your mind it causes alot of depression and alot of issues for me.And soo i think you should wait untill hes ready my mom just recently asked my father to stay away till im ready cuase its causing issues.I think on your sons behave you shouldnt force it(:-Brittny(Coming from person expierence)